I’m not even going to go into a discussion of “in order for BWE to work, we must stop the mud-slinging” talk. Why? BWE can work regardless of who demonstrates that they don’t care about black women. All you need to do is write them off and join forces with those who truly do care. We can’t stop people from saying offensive things but we CAN stop them from getting under our skin. With that said, I’m going to tell you how I truly feel. Obesity among black women is appalling and should be decreased. Cancer among black women is appalling and should be decreased. So are AIDS, reckless child-bearing, depression, poverty, etc. We should address those issues but only based on a well-known principle: It’s Not What You Say But How You Say It.
If you tell someone that she needs to lose weight because she’s a fat pig that nobody wants, that’s ignorant. Tell her to lose weight because she might live longer, have more energy, and romantic options, she just might listen. At the same time, the listener must admit that fat is a problem. Don’t reject the message and then complain when you develop some obesity related illness. Lastly, there is nothing wrong with losing weight to increase your romantic options. Black women, heck women in general have been told for too long that they are wrong for longing for romance.
At the same, preaching against OOW births has become hate-speech on the part of some. IT IS WRONG TO REFER TO CHILDREN AS BASTARDS! IT IS WRONG TO PENALIZE CHILDREN FOR THE MISTAKES MADE BY THEIR PARENTS. And no, I’m not implying that having kids OOW is necessarily a mistake. Think about it, how can you on one hand claim to be for BWE and then, like our enemies, blame black single mothers for the problems of the black collective?
Why does the color of a black woman’s man matter when it comes to our empowerment? On one hand we embrace any almighty white, Asian, or Latino man if he prefers black women and vice versa but sistas who are black man only are idiots. Let me make it abundantly clear that I DO NOT SUPPORT BLACK MANHOOD NOR BLACK LOVE and I WILL NOT BE SHOWING UP TO PROTEST WHEN A BLACK MAN IS SHOT OR KILLED but I respect a woman’s right to limit herself to dating black men. No race of men has demonstrated absolute love for ANY race of women, not even white men for white women (Jewish Holocaust, Salem Witch Trials) So if we hate one group of men, we might as well hate them all AND the male-identified women who support them. I should add that hating an entire group is illogical.
Finally, there have been comments that I rejected because they disrespected other BWE bloggers. To my knowledge, no BWE blogger has allowed people to attack me on their blog. So my policy is as long as you don’t allow me to be trashed on your blog, I won’t allow you to be trashed on mine. I’m not directing this post to any one blogger because I’ve seen various offenses on various blogs and I’m not perfect either. I also don’t care about someone’s difference of opinion because I deal with differences regularly. If you put black women first, I’m on your side and I hope you’re on mine. Black women are trashed and dashed daily, FOR HEAVEN’S SAKE, WE DON’T NEED THOSE WHO CLAIM TO FIGHT FOR US TO BE ENEMIES AS WELL. CUT YOUR FELLOW SISTAS SOME SLACK.